There is a difference….

I am sure as I am writing these few sentences….a bell will toll in another”s head as to…Oh my….

I being a bit timid to write about these things….decided to plunge forth anyway…

I must because I know….without a doubt…there are many more like me…swimming in this puddle of….Never being seen as doing enough….

There is a huge difference in the relationship of….

1. Trying to waddle your way through normal differences in people…the usual suspects…such as…habits and patterns that make up our life….

Example….where they like to eat…when they like to eat….which side of the bed they sleep on…routines…how the toothpaste comes out of the tube….toilet paper hanging….

AND

2. Trying to constantly find the salve for your entire body being shoved into the fiery furnaces of hell….

Example…addictions…inappropriate relationships between fathers and daughters…porn over intimacy…blaming the other for everything that goes wrong…blaming the other for keeping them from something…basically scapegoat-ism…because they really do not want to do A…B…or C….so you make the convenient fall guy…

The second relationship is the one that keeps you in a cycle of anxiety that nothing can fix…or soothe…and it is the misconception that we as women and many men are to be the caretakers..enduring..always forgiving…constantly adjusting…dancing on broken glass with bleeding feet because it brings them giggles….mentality…

That has cost way too many people in their lives….

There is a difference between quirks…habits…

AND

Moral and ethical….soul aching…behavior….

You can have someone be stressed…had a long week and need to talk..or ask for help with schedules…life issue…and talk and work through them…

OR

The blowout of knives a flying….being accused of things one cannot even think of…let alone do…or witness the sexual engagement between parent and child…have blame placed on you…for their behavior…being demeaned…shamed…and misled…

So which are you dealing with…?

And how many times have you been placed in cleaning up the vomit…and waiting it out till the next typhoon comes along…?

How many books…articles..podcast…personal stories…have you heard…that said it was your job to change…?

How many times have you been told…Forgive…Release Resentment…Change your Perspective….Look for the many ways you can see your partner as different…Understand their differences….Find a solution….

Oh yes…and do not forget SELF LOVE and SELF CARE….

Tell me…

Are any of us able even capable of simply brushing our teeth when we are in a constant state of panic….filled with remorse…for not being a loving…kind…all enduring person…?

NOPE….

And it will never happen….

You have to realize something…

We have twisted Love to fit our paradigm….

Jesus did not say…”Turn the cheek…when another slaps you on one cheek…turn and offer them the other…”so we could hand over our entire body for slaughter and immersion in filth….He said…Turn your cheek…

Jesus spoke something different in that….

Perhaps it was cast your eyes in another direction….see a new perspective…see perhaps…or I know…that you are quality…not trash…and your purpose here is not a spiritual…emotional…mental…physical punching bag…

There is difference….

And…

There is abuse…

One has a solution….

And one leaves you dead….

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~ by HopeGlenn on February 19, 2015.

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