Hero..really?…

I am happy..ecstatic..that one more woman got away from a controlling..hurtful man..for that stars are in my eyes…

Yet before we all hula hoop around the block..and have ice cream for dinner..lets remember who this is..and how this feat was accomplished…money…and fame…

An actress..who I will not name..was able to maneuver..her self and her child away from a manipulative..controlling man..okay I will go ahead and say it..an abuser…and she has been hailed a hero…a spokeswoman for all women..in the precarious situation…

Yet..again I ask for pause..a moment..to reflect..without her fame..marrying a movie star..money..family money and clout..she might very well be there still..or running..like many of the “ordinary” women must do today..

How did she become the hero..when her father is a lawyer with heavy influence..money and defined purpose..and if he knew the movie star was a bad match for his daughter..why did he not allow it to happen in the first place…?

Why is not the lady who ran in the night..with a box of pop tarts and her children..in a car with a breaking motor..be given the same notice the same attention..the same voice…?

I know..no money..no clout..and damn well not a movie star..a bit overweight..her appearance bedraggled…her clothes fashionable decades ago…yet nonetheless..a hero..a brave..brave woman..

I think she should be on the poster to represent a hero…who did this brave act..without a big ole tough daddy…ten bucks in her wallet and a few mouths to feed..who has escaped and lives in a apartment roaches do not like..who works two jobs..and tries to go to school..so that her children and she may someday know..what it is to breath..and think there own thoughts…

It is all great and dandy..to make it through..approach a situation… when you have a legion standing behind you..who think you are the greatest thing since sliced bread…and money..and influence..and you do not have to worry about anything..nothing..not even the fact that your toenails need painting…(sarcasm)…

Yet do it from the standpoint of a real woman in that situation…like me..or my friend Lisa..and the list of names goes on and on…

Do it when the state comes in and takes away your children because you left him…or you eat garbage to stay alive and then find out one day you are sick…live in the roach motel..or have the place you were given in the divorce..where you and your children live..be constantly under threat of being taken away…just because they can…and then where will you go..because we all know minimum wage pays the bills….

No great big ole tough daddy to go to court for you and fund everything..nothing..no place to stay..if this one falls through..no one to pay your bills when you have to call in sick to your job..no one to help you understand that you are doing excellent in this world..doing the best you can…despite the fact you get to spend five minutes a day with your children…

No one in your court..except the friend who lives the same life…

So pardon me if I do not hail this movie star as a hero..she is not..I am glad she is wise enough for the moment to get out..and I hope she recognizes how unbelievably blessed she is to be in the situation she is…

But as for heroes..defying the odds…I just went and looked in the mirror…and there she is…

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~ by HopeGlenn on July 13, 2012.

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